26.10.2017
Almost every man had found himself in a situation when a girl that he likes ignores him. Typical reaction of a man would be either getting offended or continuing to pursue the girl blindly believing that the only reason behind her actions is that she ignores him because she likes him. While the first scenario leads to the possibility of dismissing the person who is actually ignoring you because of liking you, the second one may lead to accusations of stalking. Sometimes the fact that a girl ignores you should be a call for action, as with enough efforts you can win her heart, but sometimes you should just leave her. To understand when you should leave and when you should stay you need to learn the reasons why a girl ignores you. Let's go through different situations when a girl ignores you and find out the reasons behind them.
1. She Doesn't Answer
What the hell is going? You've met each other in the club, and she gave you her phone number, but she's not picking up the phone? Well, there are two possible explanations. First, you need to analyze yourself. If you are the why-do-girls-always-ignore-me type of guy, then you should wait a bit. Because in this case, you are most likely panicking because she didn't pick up the phone the first time you called. Think, have you exchanged the numbers or she'd just given you hers? In the latter situation, it is better to send her a text message telling her who you are, as she may not want to receive a call from the unknown number.
You may start getting upset if she doesn’t pick up the phone after you send the message or if your phone calls get no reply for a week or two. It may mean only one thing – she was just polite. She had no desire to be rude and tell you in yuor face that she wanted nothing to do with you, so she'd decided to give you her phone number for you to just get lost. It means she's not into you and doesn't want to give you a chance to prove her wrong. Yep, it's sad, but it is her right to do so, so it's better to leave her alone.
2. She Stopped Replying
Everything was going fine, then, all of a sudden, she stopped replying your messages and phone calls. Now think for how long have you been communicating? Less than a week? Then there are two possible explanations. The first is that she started replying because she didn't want to be rude. She was corresponding with you because she was polite, but when she'd found out that your intentions were serious, she decided to end your communication abruptly. The second explanation is that she had found you interesting at first, but throughout your correspondence, she came to a conclusion that you are too boring or uninteresting. Mind that girls rarely go in for telling you directly that they find you boring. Instead, they prefer to start ignoring you.
In both cases, it is easy to figure out the reasons rereading your correspondence. If her replies are simple and emotionally detached – she's not into you, and it is better to move on.
3. She Started Talking to You Less
Everything was okay, and you thought that your conversations were leading to something. Now, all of a sudden she spends less time on you? It doesn't seem that you irritate her and there are no signs that she is going to throw you away completely. If she doesn't flirt with you any longer, then it is a clear sign that she decided that you belong in the friend zone. If you find her an interesting person and you feel okay being friends with her, then you can remain friends. If you do mind, it is better to move on leaving her.
4. She's Not Answering You All The Time
She is responsive in the evening, but she never picks up the phone or texts you back in the morning or at noon? Before you start wondering about why girls ignore, you should consider a thing, which is called poor timing. She may be busy. There is no mystery and your thoughts that she finds you a boring person have nothing to do with reality. The best thing you can do is to phone and text her at the time when she would definitely answer you. There is no need to bother her with your calls and messages when she is busy.
5. Sometimes She Ignores You, Sometimes She's All Ears
Today you are having the best possible conversations with her, but tomorrow she suddenly disappears and starts ignoring you, then a few days later she shows up again? Is she acting a little bit weird recently? She was talking a lot about her ex-boyfriends and asking you a lot about your ex-girlfriends? And then she disappears again, and then she is back again, and it goes on and on. We have a good and bad news for you. The good one, she is most likely ignoring you, because she likes you and wants certain actions from you. The bad news is that you'll have to figure out on your own what actions exactly she wants from you.
As you can see, there is no mystery about why a girl ignores you. Actually, you can always ask yourself why a guy would ignore a girl. Believe it or not, but guys ignore girls because of the same reasons. Would you tell a girl that you've lost your interest in her? Maybe, but most likely you will ignore her, as you don't want to be rude. Sometimes, you'd ignore a girl to show that you have other things to do, to make her jealous a bit. Actions and reasons are the same, only the role of the who wonders why changes.
Okay, we've figured out that sometimes if a girl ignores you, she does like you. She may want you to make the first move, or she is just showing off. The hardest question is what to do when a girl ignores you. If you dig some info on this subject, you can easily get lost, as someone would advise you to ask her why she ignores you, while others will advise you to start ignoring a girl to get her attention. Google will give you over 3 million results if you type “Why a girl is ignoring me?”, so, as you can see, the question remains quite popular, but you will get almost 10 million results if you ask Google what to do in this case. There is no need to go through all of those 10 million articles on the subject, as, although each and every girl requires individual approach, we've collected some general guidelines on what to do when the girl you like ignores you.
1. Give Her Some Space
One of the reasons why a girl ignores you lies in the unpleasant fact that there is too much of you. You are probably calling her all the time? You're texting her every five minutes. Stop it! Stop it right now, or it will be too late. What if a girl ignores your text because she wants to have some alone time and your messages bother her? Think about it, she had her life before you came, and while partners must make certain sacrifices for the sake of the relationship, they still have friends and personal interests. You shouldn't dissolve in her and she shouldn't dissolve in you. So, if she ignores you to have more free space – give it to her, it is that simple. Let her see her friends on her own, don't text her every minute and don't call her every thirty minutes only to say that you love her. Believe us, your romance will last longer if you don't burn it out in the first few weeks of your relationship.
2. Confront Her About It
No matter how funny it may seem, the number of articles on the issue proves the fact that people are unable to simply ask a girl about why she is ignoring them or whether she is ignoring them or not. When you think that a girl ignores you, the first thing you should do is to make sure that she is ignoring you. She may have a bad mood, or she may have problems in her life that she doesn't want to share with you. Instead of asking her directly, you act like a selfish little boy, who goes and research the topic “What to say to a girl when she ignores you?” Before making any conclusion, it is way better to be sure that the problem lies in you. Just simply go and ask her what's wrong. Tell her that you feel confused because it feels as if she is ignoring you. You can figure out what to do only when you get an answer from her.
3. Make Sure It's Worth Trying
Sometimes doing something to make a girl stop ignoring you may be just a waste of time. We've mentioned certain cases when it is better to move on, but those were cases when you wanted to get an attention of a girl you like. Now let's discuss the case where your girlfriend is ignoring you. First, ask yourself whether it's the first time she is ignoring you. Maybe you have offended her? If so, think about the reason why she is offended. There are two cases when all of your attempts are not worth trying. The first case being you've made something truly horrible that she will never forgive you. In the case like that, it is better to back off. The best thing you can get out of it is a lesson on how you shouldn't act. The second case is when she is offended because of some absolutely ridiculous reason. If it is not the first time, it is better to leave her, as life is too short to spend it with someone who is getting offended because you correct her spelling mistakes or starts ignoring you because you didn't buy apple juice on your way back home.
As you see, there are a lot of different reasons why a girl ignores you. Sometimes she just doesn't want to tell you to get lost, and sometimes she is trying to tease you. With situations and reasons we've provided you with, it won't be a problem for you to distinguish whether she is into you or not.
Moreover, now you have the general guidelines on what to do when a girl ignores you, but mind that regardless of what has been written above, you should also listen to your heart and consider the situation you are in, as, as we've already said, every girl requires an individual approach. And remember, before taking actions because of someone ignoring you, think first if it is worthwhile.